Overcoming Conditioning in Community

If we are to step into our power as women at any stage of life, overcoming our conditioning is vital. Most of us do not learn as we grow up that our voices matter, that our emotions are valid, that we deserve to be seen and heard and validated. Hearing the inner whisperings of our soul and expressing them through our words or actions might be met with anger, scorn, ridicule or even violence and we learn bit by bit to doubt that little whisper.

The way this has shown up in my life has been through the implication that my opinion doesn’t matter and that my emotions are ridiculous and make me unstable. We can probably all think of examples, both subtle and overt, from childhood and later, of times when those around us demonstrated by their behaviour that our voices didn’t matter, that our natural ways of being were wrong, and bit by bit we take their cues, we come to believe they are right and we ignore the voice of our own soul.

And yet even though we might never listen to it, that little voice never goes away. We might hear it during the quiet times of our cycle when we have our period, during menopause, when lots of us notice it becoming louder and louder, or during pregnancy when we can’t help but be more in our body. It might whisper to us about a shift in our purpose (see this week’s videos) or nudge us when we override our own boundaries.

In my own body I notice the little inner voice speak through my muscles, a tightening when I’ve gone against my own truth, a relaxing when I’ve honoured it. It’s taking me a lot of practice, a lot of noticing my body but I’m becoming closer and closer to that voice, I can access it more and more, but can I follow its instructions?

It’s one thing for us to begin to know what’s right for us but quite another to go out into the world and do it. That’s where the power of community comes in. Even when we’ve become familiar with our inner voice our conditioning still leads us to thoughts like ‘that can’t be right’, ‘it probably isn’t that important’, or ‘he seems confident he must know what he’s doing.’ This last one causes an awful lot of problems!

When we have a group of women to run things by though, we begin to validate each other. Sometimes just the act of voicing the situation to someone who understands can be enough for us to realise that our inner voice is valid, that we do have the right to say no, that it would be great to take up skydiving, that it wouldn’t be totally crazy to change our career.

At other times the conditioning is in deeper and we need the perspective of the group, women who are moving in similar directions to us, towards equality and freedom. Hearing them say ‘yes I agree’ or ‘I’m going to do that too’ can give us the confidence boost to start living our truth.

My clients and I have felt this need for community so strongly that we’ve formed the Healing Womanhood women’s circle where we can spend time listening to our bodies, connect over the challenges we face, and tap with EFT to come back into our own beautiful power and magic. We would love it if you could join us there on April 9th, 6-8pm UK time and for this first session only I’m offering a huge 40% discount, just use the code MAGIC1

Book your spot here: https://www.healingwomanhood.com/book-online

Or find out more here: https://www.facebook.com/events/4001157333502633/

For this week’s videos on the shifting of our sense of purpose during menopause go here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yc-0xOuQwuw&t=274s